DEAR DEIDRE: I’M in love with a wonderful guy with a four-year-old son.
I’m doing my best to make friends with his little boy but he’s told me a few times his dad doesn’t need me and I should just leave them alone.
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I’m 33 and have fertility issues, which means I cannot have children of my own.
I met this man six weeks ago. He’s 42, I think he’s amazing and I was happy he has a son.
I do my best to make sure his lad feels relaxed around me. I’ve brought him books, sweets and toys that he wants but, as soon as his dad gets close to me, he gets jealous and gets between me and him.
This really upsets me. I haven’t said anything yet but his dad and I get on so well and I really don’t know how to cope.
DEIDRE SAYS: It’s early days, so take it slowly and try not to stress.
This little boy is just four but he’s already been through some difficult changes in life.
It’s natural for him to cling to his father and feel jealous of you.
Let him get to know you gradually and accept it’s more tactful not to cosy up to his dad while he’s around, at least for now.
Ease up on the gifts and the sweets and be careful not to make him feel like he gets in the way.
Family Lives can help (familylives.org.uk, 0808 800 2222).
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