I've caught feelings for one of the women I'm in an open relationship with

DEAR DEIDRE: I’M in an open relationship with two women, but the one I really like has started ignoring me.

I am a 41-year-old man and the women in my life are 33 and 36.

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I think the younger one is seeing another guy. But I’ve realised I’m in love with her and I’m terrified I’m going to lose her.

I used to spend half my week with one, and half with the other, but now the one I love is avoiding my calls and won’t message me back.

When I went round there last week, she was out.

I sat in my car outside her house and later watched as she came in with a man.

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My other girlfriend is happy with our arrangement, but I no longer feel the same about her.

What should I do?

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DEIDRE SAYS: Open relationships can work, but they are generally fraught with issues, especially jealousy.

It sounds like this type of relationship may no longer suit you.

If the woman you love is seeing someone else and avoiding you, it’s likely she’s had enough, too.


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You need to be honest and tell both women how you feel. Ask them what they want.

It’s possible you’ll end up with neither of them but at least everyone will be clear on where they stand.

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