{"id":69078,"date":"2023-09-18T18:33:01","date_gmt":"2023-09-18T18:33:01","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/geels.net\/?p=69078"},"modified":"2023-09-18T18:33:01","modified_gmt":"2023-09-18T18:33:01","slug":"my-boss-gets-drunk-and-kisses-me-but-i-am-too-scared-to-say-it-makes-me-uncomfortable-the-sun","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/geels.net\/beauty\/my-boss-gets-drunk-and-kisses-me-but-i-am-too-scared-to-say-it-makes-me-uncomfortable-the-sun\/","title":{"rendered":"My boss gets drunk and kisses me but I am too scared to say it makes me uncomfortable | The Sun"},"content":{"rendered":"
DEAR DEIDRE: WHENEVER my boss gets drunk at work events, he kisses me. <\/p>\n
The next day he acts like nothing has happened. I feel really uncomfortable and confused about this.<\/p>\n
I\u2019m a 30-year-old straight guy, and I live with my girlfriend. <\/p>\n
He\u2019s about 40 and is married with kids.<\/p>\n
The first time it happened, we were out celebrating a team account win.<\/p>\n
He gave me a big bear hug and kissed me on the cheek, saying \u201cI bloody love you!\u201d. <\/p>\n
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It felt a bit off, but I put it down to too much prosecco.<\/p>\n
Then it happened in the pub after work, and again at another team event. <\/p>\n
The third time, he actually took my head in his hands and gave me a big smacker on the lips, then laughed it off. <\/p>\n
He doesn\u2019t do this with anyone else. Does he think I\u2019m gay \u2013 or is he?<\/p>\n
I\u2019m worried my colleagues will think something is going on between us.<\/p>\n
However, I\u2019m too scared to say anything to him in case I embarrass him or lose my job.<\/p>\n
It\u2019s making me dread going to after-work events and now I try to avoid being alone with him at work.<\/p>\n
Maybe I\u2019m just overreacting.<\/p>\n
DEIDRE SAYS:\u00a0<\/strong><\/span>You\u2019re not overreacting. Perhaps he\u2019s gay, or perhaps he\u2019s just on a power trip. <\/p>\n Either way, his behaviour is inappropriate. <\/p>\n You don\u2019t want him to kiss you but, because he\u2019s your boss, you feel you can\u2019t say anything.<\/p>\n He\u2019s abusing his position. This is sexual harassment.<\/p>\n If ever you feel able to, or the right moment does occur, talk to him when he\u2019s sober and ask him not to do this again.<\/p>\n Alternatively, do consider reporting him to your company\u2019s HR department. <\/p>\n They will have policies to deal with this.<\/p>\n Keep a record of what\u2019s happened and when, so you can use it if necessary.<\/p>\n Contact acas.org.uk for support. Its site has a section on sexual harassment.<\/p>\n <\/p>\n <\/p>\n <\/p>\n <\/p>\nMost read in Dear Deidre<\/h2>\n
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