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<\/p>\nMy partner is vocal and bossy in bed.<\/p>\n
She never gives her mouth a rest. She barks out her orders and instructions at top volume.<\/p>\n
I\u2019m ordered to lick her here or rub her there without a hint of love or charm. Then, when she\u2019s ready to climax, I\u2019m screamed at to hurry up and sychronise.<\/p>\n
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I find this stressful and unromantic. Our love-making increasingly lacks spontaneity and now seems to have a formula, which I hate.<\/p>\n
I\u2019d like to speak to her about this, but I\u2019m embarrassed and wouldn\u2019t know where to start. Any tips?<\/p>\n
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JANE SAYS: You\u2019ve got to get over your embarrassment.<\/i> <\/b><\/p>\n
Talk to your partner away from the bedroom and explain that things have to change because this does nothing for you.<\/i> <\/b><\/p>\n
Sadly, if you\u2019re failing to satisfy her, then ask her what she\u2019d like you to do.<\/i> <\/b> Equally, she has to hear what you need. I can\u2019t imagine being barked at is good for anyone\u2019s sexual confidence.<\/i> <\/b><\/p>\n
If she can\u2019t take constructive criticism, then does she have your best interests at heart? Does she love you enough to make a few changes?<\/i> <\/b><\/p>\n
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My disgusting, sex-obsessed flatmate is driving me crazy. When we first got this place, I thought we\u2019d have a laugh.<\/p>\n
But living with her is turning into a nightmare. Not only is she messy and selfish, but she\u2019s moody and unpredictable too.<\/p>\n
She\u2019s got a new boyfriend and all they do is have very noisy sex. I\u2019m left to clean the kitchen and bathroom on my own.<\/p>\n
She\u2019s slow to pay bills and never chips in for general groceries. We barely speak and I\u2019m miserable. I can\u2019t confide in my family because they warned me against her. What am I supposed to do?<\/p>\n
JANE SAYS: I suspect your folks saw through her at the start.<\/i> <\/b><\/p>\n
The reality is that you won\u2019t be stuck with her forever. When does the lease end? Can you start looking around in the New Year?<\/i> <\/b><\/p>\n
Swallow your pride and tell your family everything. Explain to them you\u2019re having a tough time and see if they can help come up with a solution.<\/i> <\/b><\/p>\n
As for your flatmate, see if you can meet each other halfway? Accept that you were probably too hasty and just see if you and she can be more adult about this.<\/i> <\/b><\/p>\nJoin the Daily Star's WhatsApp for the sexiest headlines, showbiz gossip and lots more<\/h3>\n
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